So she left you. And she wants to remain friends. Sounds good, right? You can still see her, talk to her, and exchange fun emails. Also, if she sees you enough, she laughs with you and hangs out with you long enough…she will eventually want you to be her boyfriend again. Good? Sure she will.

Women know right away, most of the time within five minutes of meeting you, whether or not they will ever date you. If so, it falls squarely into your “romantic interests” category. If not, you are considered an acquaintance or a friend. The line between these two categories is blurred in movies… where friends often end up kissing and falling into bed together. But in the real world? Those lines are much more defined.

What if you already dated this girl and now she is your ex girlfriend? the chances of you Transition from friendship to romance. they are almost nothing. Sure, you might still sleep together after a drunken night… but sleeping with your ex casually every once in a while hardly falls into the category of a real long-term relationship. If what you are looking for is get your ex girlfriend backyou need to work to achieve that goal.

Many guides will tell you that friendship is a path that leads back to your ex’s heart. Is not true. Friendship clouds the relationship between you and your ex, creating a kind of weird and uncomfortable limbo from which you can’t touch her. Make an unrequited romantic gesture? Suddenly, you’ve crossed the line, creating a situation that jeopardizes your friendship AND any future relationship you may have had with your ex. Worst of all, you put yourself in this position at the agreeVoluntarily be friends with your ex girlfriend after the break up.

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself the question: “why does my ex girlfriend want to be my friend?” Because friendship isn’t a natural progression of a relationship, it’s actually a type of degradation when you think about it. It’s like she’s saying “I like you, but not enough to want to go out with you.” What makes you think she’ll change her mind? Are you hoping that she will date someone else, maybe she will flop and then come back to you? Trust me, jealousy will tear you apart.

No, your ex wants to be friends for one simple (and very selfish) reason: it’s comfortable for her. He gets all the benefits of a relationship: the companionship, the fun, the hanging out, the talking…and none of the drawbacks like staying monogamous or having to talk back to you on any level. It’s a perfect world for her, minus her sex. And sometimes? An ex who is still your friend will even do that, which will confuse you even more.

Rather than passively sit in a friendship role, you need to work to get your ex girlfriend back. You just can’t do that from friendly position. There are methods and techniques that you can use to win back his heart, but these methods fail when you try to cast them from a friendship point of view. You must accept and agree with his decision to separate, take a step back, and then draw a step by step plan for getting back together. It’s the only way to get back together with your ex, when she just wants to be friends.